I've recently wondered about friendships and have come to the conclusion that it's pretty simple, just made complex because I just didn't understand it. Now that's changed and I can't believe that I didn't see it sooner.
Friendships form an important part of our life, but as life's a journey then why did I get upset when some friendships weren't consistent along the path I'd chosen.
There are plenty of different types of friends and not all of them are for the duration of one's journey.
There are many forms of friendships, Short term, long term, social, a period in time, relative, colleague
Just because you don't have a friendship at this precise moment in time, you have to understand that this doesn't represent what you may of had in your past. Don't be upset when you try a revisit old friendships and it isn't the same. You've both moved on from that point in time, had different experiences and also may have different perceptions of life. It doesn't hurt to catch up but don't go looking for friendships that were literally a point in time.
Work colleagues, team members, etc... are exactly that, they don't move on when you do. There are friendships that can fall into more than one category, which may mean that someone you meet as a work colleague can become a long term friend. There doesn't seem to be a set rule for this and we don't have badges to identify the type of friend one is, however everyone seems to know their place.
The ending of friendships doesn't always have to be caused from a disagreement, although that's a pretty sound way of closing the deal. Others relationships just extinguish if left alone.
Close friendships are few and far between, you can be long term friends that aren't close but you seem to only have a few really close friends. These are friends that you know you'd literally do anything for. To have friends like these is fantastic, you don't have to work at being friends with these people and know that you can pick up your friendship from where you left it.
I'm lucky enough to have a few people that I'd literally drop everything to be there for. I know they'll not have to ask but I know also that I will be there.
Friendship - I now get it
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